Eh. I've just always felt that the discussion forum should contain discussions.
Anyway, it's difficult to talk about "need" in relation to emotions, because technically you don't really need emotions at all, in the sense that they aren't necessary to support your biological functions and keep you living. But "staying alive" really has nothing to do with the topic at hand. When you're talking about emotional needs, you can't just say "need;" you have to set a goal as well. Like, "need to be happy" or "need for personal fufillment" or something. If Our Koss were to get stabbed in the face five times, or eaten by bears, or something, I'm pretty sure Diane would still be alive afterwards, but she might not really
want to be. For a time, anyway.
It's strange how some people seem to want to transcend their emotions, and pretend that they don't need anything that doesn't keep them alive and financially secure. I think it's that attitude that leads to stress and mental breakdowns. Sure, I don't "need" video games, peanut butter, or Alexis; but if I cut myself off from these "frivolous luxuries," and just concentrated every last one of my efforts on not dying and building a future for myself, I'm pretty sure I would go completely insane in a matter of weeks. So, in that sense, I
do need things that promote my general emotional wellbeing.
Although I don't like the "formulaic" nature of this particular attempt to define love, it is true that one's ability to meet someone else's emotional needs is a key factor in the "equasion." I mean, you can satisy
wants with any one of your friends, but you don't fall in love with everyone who makes you laugh or is into D&D, or whatever. At least, I should hope you don't. At what point do you advance to the next step, then? Why is it that some couples that seem to have everything in common can be totally wrong for each other, and some couples that are as different as night and day can be great for each other? That's where these mysterious and enigmatic "emotional needs" come in. They're a lot harder to define than you might think. That's why relationships can get to be tricky. It's a lot easier to explain why you like something than why you truly love someone. <p><div style="text-align:center">
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